So Much Intelligence, So Little Use Of It!!!

Current mood:surprised

""Never make someone a priority if they only make you an option"


I am so impressed with all the really intelligent and great people I see on social sites and dating website mediums! I "browse" alot on myspace, facebook, (and now: Google+) and also look through dating sites, and as I was reading many pages, I ran across the above little gem years ago. I couldn't help but think just how powerful and profound it is. I was dumbstruck (now some might say that it wouldn't take much to do that, but I'll let you decide that for yourself after you talk to me..LOL) as to what that meant in my life.

In my deepest relationship, that is exactly what I let myself become. Oh I tried to change it by all means, but I realize that that was exactly what she relegated me to, an option. After 6 years together, I was now just an option. Quite the bitter pill to swallow, you know, but I did. Now the relationship has been over for a long time and I have moved on, but have you ever read something, heard a song, smelled something, cleaned out a drawer and found a card or pic and the memories come floating back to you. It has had to happen to you or you have never loved anyone.


I know that I am more than an option. I will not ever make someone a priority until they want to make me one as well. If they will not make respect, honor, and integrity a priority in their life then why would I ever have the faith in them to share it together. Absolutely nothing wrong with having these expectations met. I am selective in whom I will call a "friend". I will be as good a friend as I can be and that will also be shown here on this site. I select those whom I feel are interesting and real, and I expect nothing less about myself from anyone here either. I'm not here to gather as many scantily clad "friends" as possible like some. If a spark ingnites a flame between us then that is wonderful, but friendships are the basis. Do I want them to attractive? Yes, (and that can be meant in many different ways, by the way) but I want a good soul and intellect to go with that, please?! Can you talk into the speaker please!

No one expects "undying devotion and love" after a few dates,(IF they do: RUN FORREST! RUNNNNN!) but just re-read that statement at the beginning and try and apply it for a minute to those of your present....did you or they ever do this and did you learn not to?