The Anti-Male

Current mood:inquisitive

As someone who roams many social sites quite often, I do read the blogs, the descriptions, the captions, the comments.....and I am definitely ready to comment ....let's roar!

I read of so much pain, so let's talk about that......

To so many of you that spend so much wasted time espousing to WHAT YOU WILL NOT DO or WHAT YOU THINK YOU DESERVE because of the past: As someone who has been in your situation, I can tell you that so many of us, men, recognize and realize that YOU have run into jerks and psychos in your life. Let me ask you some questions. DON'T YOU THINK THAT WE HAVE NOT HAD OUR JERKS AND PSYCHOS AS WELL! (since you place us as a block, you are wanting to sum us as "The Three Musketeers" exclamation..."All for one and one for all".... we know how it works and you couldn't be more wrong...we are not that organized, as a gender that is!) Are you so blinded by your ego and previous pain that you cannot be objective and see some of us as who we are, and not what you anticipate as to "what you think we should become or what you fear we WILL become"? Didn't you think we are aware that our gender is just as guilty as yours? The lines have become blurred and no one can see anymore. As someone who does not make promises that I can't keep, it amazes me that so many of you "ladies" are willing to expect so much, and give so little. Why? "Next" should only be so lucky as to get the first escape route out of YOUR life.

I say this in respect to someone who has really made great strides in her life, someone who was where you were, and that has come out the other side with a new perspective that hopefully she will never let someone take away from her. This I pray for the most. Not for any reason.....not for love, not for anticipation, and especially not for reconnection. She is a stronger woman now, a vibrant woman, and she is even more remarkable for it. I played a very, very small role in the transformation, but I am so very honored in being allowed to be a part of it. With that expressed, she is a greater soul now and I can only hope she holds onto it. Never forget just how far she's come and where it was she started from. Those ties have been released. I am nothing but a footnote and glad to be that. You are very welcome, but I didn't do anything except point the way, you took the steps. I do hope that many in this medium can find the strength she has. It would be very rewarding to just witness. I don't even have or want to be there. Just to witness is enough.

Now, this blog is not for everyone. I understand that, but have we become so jaded, so narcissistic, our own personal judgment so clouded, that we seek to create the "Anti Male"? Yes, you read that right " The Anti Male". Everything you so want in a man that you are so hell bent on destroying one to achieve what you truly want. Don't you realize that if you don't have the expertise to build or rebuild something, you shouldn't try it? Would you try to tear down your car engine or your favorite appliance if you didn't know how to put it back together correctly and make it operate as it should? Hell, most men don't even know how to do that. The descriptive is a metaphor. Yes, I know that men and women are not literally these objects, but its used as a point of contrast. Its like taking something apart and putting it back together and when you are all finished, you have some parts left over. "Uh oh....where did these pieces fit?" Aaaaa..just plug it in and let it run anyway.....just chuck the rest in the junk drawer. We'll figure that out later. Then when your car's engine blows up or your house burns down, you wonder to yourself, "Maybe I really did need those pieces..(as you cry and then scratch your head with confusion...)

Now, this is not an accusation that YOU should try to do this, or that every women does this. Its an observation that ALOT of "us" do this on both sides. In many of ways, my gender is their own worst enemy, but again, more questions.....Do you really think we, as men, want your help in that? Would you walk into a situation that you were automatically set up to fail and no matter how you proceeded, you could not succeed? This man does not. Let's try a common sense question, if you feed a fire gasoline, what happens? If you classify your bad behavior, as "self preservation", do you really think you will get what you really crave, in return? When that same bad behavior is shown to you, does that make you more endeared to him? I'm not a real gambling man, but I'd take that bet on your answer.

Help to stop creating the "Anti Male"....

I make mistakes just as you do, but I am not the "Anti Male".....and I will not accept your "Three Musketeers" explanation of me...

If you want a good man, then let him be a good man.....

Let's use a lyric to sum it up...

I got so tired of that; I got so lonely
I dropped down and I called out to Heaven
"Send me someone to love"
and Heaven shot back
" You get the love that you allow"
And everything is different now