It is the title of My Blog! Oh I am grinning through tears...some tears of joy and some of pain! Truly I am!...Self reflections are so bitter sweet!! 95% of people are tooo afraid to share and the other 5% are either too ignorant or too narcissistic to even consider doing it...to worried that it will come back and hurt them later..and it just might..so courage is hard to come by :) well in my life? I have been dealt ENOUGH pain that the next round can't even come close....and yes..Congrats to the narcissistic critics of me! I am here and tesitifying! HALLELUJAH!! and so proud to do so!! I am a Deep Loving Old Soul, and have realized over a short lifetime..we let catalysts into our lives that push in the greatest of ways. We either find our greatest nemesis..(which I have)...or our greatest grace..(which I have found as well)
Past greatness and past mistakes will hold us back. Trying to turn back time... to reach back for both.... is dangerous! I stopped, I had too...and we should acknowledge that they are now the force pushing US forward, ME forward, like an ignited rocket....It is not what I ever did...but what I learned from what I have done. I sought atonement and forgiveness of myself first, then I sought out those that I knew I had wronged, before? I allowed others to define me, Distract me, Manipulate me...Now? I seek how I can now be a better man everyday and be Grace..not a nemesis...I don't blame those of the past any longer, I am free! and most importantly? I don't blame myself for others "Bad Behavior". I was once almost wiped from this planet...and I am thankful I am still here...I have buried friends and hurt deeply , but I am human, and on the tiniest of levels, glad I was not one that joined my former friends and loved ones on that final trip. I am Thankful that so many have not as well. The sense of cherish is strong in my heart....I want to teach that to my children, my family and my friends. Some lessons are not always going to be "Happy, Shiny"
I have crossed paths with those that barely acknowledged me in the past, and also with those that have never known me, but I knew who they were...and I am so grateful they want to know me now! I have crossed paths with those that made petty choices in the past, in an attempt to humiliate me and others...to hurt me and others, for their own miserable reasons..and also to those that have forgotten, or at that time, thought no one would ever remember their mean words or deeds...but keep in mind, I Do! Many remember not your words, but how you made them feel! Blessedly, We all grew up :)
That is the Beauty! We ALL found a Reason for Modfication!! Hearts grow, Karma is dealt out, Ignorance is either embraced with a smile or its destroyed and Realization is Painful AND Uplifting! Now, those that have wronged you in the past may not see it, and those that you wronged may not see that you were delivered the reckoning, but WE ourselves, all know when our moment came calling...and the longer the wait? The farther and more painful was the fall!! But, the Grace to that? Is "The Uplifting" and that is incredibly more miraculous! and thats when you can Embrace BOTH!! and Grow and Teach others. Hope is an endangered emotion....but so needed in this world! Now more than ever before....
Now, there are many among us that have been fortunate to have a great marriage, great family, and different experiences, some of whom I notice, really do take for granted what is there.....Inconvenient truth is that You have been fortunate to really never NOT know whats that is like! I see and hear SOOO many judge in comparison to their own lives, keep in mind, you can be be alone very quickly ...each experience is OUR OWN.....You can walk in someone's footsteps and watch them track through life, but never truly wear their shoes....Those shoes were never made for you!! But the tracks still lead through the same fires, the same showers, and also through the same warm, healing sunlight. Embrace the Reasons for Modification! YOUR REASONS!! Be a Better Man or a Better Woman Everyday!! Learn to Accept the Inconvenient Truths with dignity and integrity and become stronger in your choices, reinforce the value of life...Your Life! and help others to do the same...You don't have to value the exact same things...Find YOUR Reasons for Modification! and realize this is a lifetime journey! There is no finish to this!!
The Inconvenient Truth is just that....We all want to have "complete" honesty, we all claim we want "complete" honest....until the truth doesn't fit the "happy, shiny" mold in our lives....How many of you giggle (like I do :) ) when someone says to you: "Can I be Honest with You?"....My first thought is "NO...this is the Liar's area.....Honesty is in the next room....we have to move in there.. Sorry!" No one WANTS complete honesty!! Thats a Dishonest expectation! NO YOU DON'T!! If the Truth brings pain or doesn;t allow you intstant gratification with certain things? YOU DON'T WANT THE HONESTY!! as a matter of Fact? You suddenly Modify your Reasons and Justify your actions!! You'll find that most abusers, liars, and maipulators (either gender) are exactly this way.....ON A CONSTANT BASIS!! Con-men and Con-women just take it to the next level.....but its all the same...and many pray upon You and I because we want to not be seen as "DISHONEST".....and use the Inconvenient Truth as a weapon....They know that You would shy away....and can be pushed into more difficult situations..makes it just easier to follow them, instead of be true to Yourself....
Another True Deep Soul, My Friend, Julie (last name held back for Internet nutjob reasons) once wrote to me:
"Great Change can sometimes bring Great Pain, but the change is so Brilliant? It lights the Worlds we Touch, Sadly, most Fear the Pain of the Light....and clutch deathgripped to the comfort of the Familiar"
She nailed it completely! in one great quote!! Inconvenient Truths rip worlds apart, but also make us think and feel...to find just that....Reasons For Modification.....
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
No Ordinary Moments..Present or Past...It isn't over
It is quite the journey to reach my current point in life....and My Moments are not greater or less than anyone else's...just different..my choices are my own, just as yours are your own....but revelations and epiphanies are not that far apart.....matters of moral degrees really...
"I heard that you're settled down That you found a girl and you're married now I heard that your dreams came true Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you"
Now the lyrics belong to a young woman that is like me..a deep soul..and old soul.... in a young body....so, so rare to find...she sings from her perspective but gender means nothing in her truest message, but I have always felt that here is not a song written ever that has not been felt by YOU alone! ..... but I am so thankful that so many have crossed my paths, even the ones who have tore lives apart...alot has to happen to bring that to fruition...a perfect storm...and they are a provider of wisdom AND survivors of No Ordinary Moments with us all....Deep and Old Souls are drawn to each other...and you and I share this life...we can wear our hearts like shields, and on ocassion, wield them like weapons, and we can also allow others to draw the greatest of strengths to let them move forward...and always be so grateful in being allowed to share their time! Friends, family, Loves, Former Loves....
Old friend, why are you so shy?Ain't like you to hold back or hide from the light....
We can never turn back time...and why would you? That is not the direction you are going!! There are no "Ordinary Moments" there, there never were!!!...they have transformed....they are smiles, they are joys, they are pain, they are clarity, they are love, they are deceit, they are self doubt, they were never "Ordinary"..they are ..YOU! and it is who YOU ARE NOW!! and those that cross your life may be deep souls...and they may not be.....but beleive that those deep souls believe in YOU! Even when you don't! With out fear or favor needed...but will not allow you and SOOO many others to use that for narcisisstic beliefs....I cannot tell you where you are today...that is for YOU to know..
I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited, But , I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it, I had hoped you'd see my face and that you'd be reminded That for me, it isn't over....
Oh Jesus! The most incredible people I have met in my life!! To understand now is more than I can express.... To touch this heart...to feel the sting some have left on me, the inspiration they have inspired in me, the absolute destruction they left me with...You fed this deep old soul...and let it be known I know the path of destruction I left in my wake, and so humbled by you to see you flourish when I got it right to help you....You left me with no Ordinary moments...but they are linked to me solely....and yours are to you...not good,not bad, just different....I took what was given and worked with it...good or bad,...but am sooooo thankful I was there....A better man every day!! and please know...YOU have someone there that did as I did...and YOU DID FOR THEM!! Believe again! I beg of you!! :) Your wiser now.....stop giving it away without conviction and BELIEVE IN IT completely! :) Its not your hype...it is you! :)
Never mind, I'll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you, too Don't forget me, I begged, I remember you said Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
I have been able to reconnect with so many over the past years that I foolishlessly believed I had done too much to hurt..I didn't believe...and I am not into regrets nor judgements....I lay it out there..."Don't Judge me because I SIN differently than YOU!" Revelations come to us in our own time...I don't back away from my past...and never am afraid to learn from it either...Too many try to use past transgressions they were NEVER a part of to manipulate...Expect you to "entertain them" because they missed something from someone else and then wait for the "magic sign" of worthiness.....I won't let that happen...NOT TO ANYONE I call friend, family and care for...nor allow that to myself ...not allow ANYONE to doubt themselves that has touched my heart, shown me respect,character and integrity...someone that wants to make life better for themselves without blaming others totally...I don't blow smoke....I give it to you straight but with dignity and honor..and so many have given it to me the same way...wisdom is absorbed from so many!! Never an Ordinary Moment.....It means so many great things to me...it is a strength I have learned of myself...because I kept seaching myself...and will help you do the same...I will always be a work in progress....and stand side by side with you as you learn that as well, about yourself! I ask for nothing but your kindness :)
You know how the time flies Only yesterday was the time of our lives We were born and raised in a summer haze Bound by the surprise of our glory days
I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited, But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it I had hoped you'd see my face and that you'd be reminded That for me, it isn't over yet
I have been graced and honored to be connected with my past...so many of my Alumni that I never was either allow to or were wanted with..youth was once a petty thing at times.....and with other old friends in my life at different stages...and with their friends that stood outside wondering who I was, and I them....and we finally let the world bring us to today..time was not our true ally...only our keeper ...and that to be a part of knowing you and your family is a grace to me...to be able to share my life is grace as well....to shake your hand, to hug you, to see your smile..to see it returned is a cherished moment, to me a blessed "No Ordinary Moment" to me.....always love the little moments in life...the big ones don't come often...
Never mind, I'll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you, too Don't forget me, I begged, I remember you said Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah
There are no "Ordinary Moments", truly...day to day life is a routine...please don;t try and explain that away...who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself....Now if the will to not create "Ordinary Moments" is your mantra..then so be it and please let the eyes glaze over...but you know you better than anyone else...I believe you want more....
Nothing compares,
no worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?
Its only Bittersweet if you do NOTHING to change it, to fall back and never realize you have no "Ordinary Moments".........its not about US....never was...and isn't over....
"I heard that you're settled down That you found a girl and you're married now I heard that your dreams came true Guess she gave you things I didn't give to you"
Now the lyrics belong to a young woman that is like me..a deep soul..and old soul.... in a young body....so, so rare to find...she sings from her perspective but gender means nothing in her truest message, but I have always felt that here is not a song written ever that has not been felt by YOU alone! ..... but I am so thankful that so many have crossed my paths, even the ones who have tore lives apart...alot has to happen to bring that to fruition...a perfect storm...and they are a provider of wisdom AND survivors of No Ordinary Moments with us all....Deep and Old Souls are drawn to each other...and you and I share this life...we can wear our hearts like shields, and on ocassion, wield them like weapons, and we can also allow others to draw the greatest of strengths to let them move forward...and always be so grateful in being allowed to share their time! Friends, family, Loves, Former Loves....
Old friend, why are you so shy?Ain't like you to hold back or hide from the light....
We can never turn back time...and why would you? That is not the direction you are going!! There are no "Ordinary Moments" there, there never were!!!...they have transformed....they are smiles, they are joys, they are pain, they are clarity, they are love, they are deceit, they are self doubt, they were never "Ordinary"..they are ..YOU! and it is who YOU ARE NOW!! and those that cross your life may be deep souls...and they may not be.....but beleive that those deep souls believe in YOU! Even when you don't! With out fear or favor needed...but will not allow you and SOOO many others to use that for narcisisstic beliefs....I cannot tell you where you are today...that is for YOU to know..
I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited, But , I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it, I had hoped you'd see my face and that you'd be reminded That for me, it isn't over....
Oh Jesus! The most incredible people I have met in my life!! To understand now is more than I can express.... To touch this heart...to feel the sting some have left on me, the inspiration they have inspired in me, the absolute destruction they left me with...You fed this deep old soul...and let it be known I know the path of destruction I left in my wake, and so humbled by you to see you flourish when I got it right to help you....You left me with no Ordinary moments...but they are linked to me solely....and yours are to you...not good,not bad, just different....I took what was given and worked with it...good or bad,...but am sooooo thankful I was there....A better man every day!! and please know...YOU have someone there that did as I did...and YOU DID FOR THEM!! Believe again! I beg of you!! :) Your wiser now.....stop giving it away without conviction and BELIEVE IN IT completely! :) Its not your hype...it is you! :)
Never mind, I'll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you, too Don't forget me, I begged, I remember you said Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead
I have been able to reconnect with so many over the past years that I foolishlessly believed I had done too much to hurt..I didn't believe...and I am not into regrets nor judgements....I lay it out there..."Don't Judge me because I SIN differently than YOU!" Revelations come to us in our own time...I don't back away from my past...and never am afraid to learn from it either...Too many try to use past transgressions they were NEVER a part of to manipulate...Expect you to "entertain them" because they missed something from someone else and then wait for the "magic sign" of worthiness.....I won't let that happen...NOT TO ANYONE I call friend, family and care for...nor allow that to myself ...not allow ANYONE to doubt themselves that has touched my heart, shown me respect,character and integrity...someone that wants to make life better for themselves without blaming others totally...I don't blow smoke....I give it to you straight but with dignity and honor..and so many have given it to me the same way...wisdom is absorbed from so many!! Never an Ordinary Moment.....It means so many great things to me...it is a strength I have learned of myself...because I kept seaching myself...and will help you do the same...I will always be a work in progress....and stand side by side with you as you learn that as well, about yourself! I ask for nothing but your kindness :)
You know how the time flies Only yesterday was the time of our lives We were born and raised in a summer haze Bound by the surprise of our glory days
I hate to turn up out of the blue, uninvited, But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it I had hoped you'd see my face and that you'd be reminded That for me, it isn't over yet
I have been graced and honored to be connected with my past...so many of my Alumni that I never was either allow to or were wanted with..youth was once a petty thing at times.....and with other old friends in my life at different stages...and with their friends that stood outside wondering who I was, and I them....and we finally let the world bring us to today..time was not our true ally...only our keeper ...and that to be a part of knowing you and your family is a grace to me...to be able to share my life is grace as well....to shake your hand, to hug you, to see your smile..to see it returned is a cherished moment, to me a blessed "No Ordinary Moment" to me.....always love the little moments in life...the big ones don't come often...
Never mind, I'll find someone like you I wish nothing but the best for you, too Don't forget me, I begged, I remember you said Sometimes it lasts in love, but sometimes it hurts instead, yeah
There are no "Ordinary Moments", truly...day to day life is a routine...please don;t try and explain that away...who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself....Now if the will to not create "Ordinary Moments" is your mantra..then so be it and please let the eyes glaze over...but you know you better than anyone else...I believe you want more....
Nothing compares,
no worries or cares
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?
Its only Bittersweet if you do NOTHING to change it, to fall back and never realize you have no "Ordinary Moments".........its not about US....never was...and isn't over....
Saturday, September 24, 2011
Revisiting,Remembering, and Struggling With the Voice
I have transferred all my blog post from Myspace here (which IS LONG OVERDUE!!!) and it is uplifting again to reread my thoughts again...I have been struggling with my writing over the years...I LOVE TO WRITE!! To Expound on thought...I do it with out fear or favor....I do it with honor....It is me..but the Blockage has been lengthy, to my own detriment...but I work through it...I accept it...I am strong, I am confident....but I have lacked inspiration....which has been overtaken by distraction, by obligation, and I miss my Muse again....When Life gets in the way...You do what you have to do...and regret nothing...but it is perfectly safe to miss what you love and want...I am remembering, and patiently waiting to write again...The fire is there..only waiting for the ember to meet my wind...and the blaze will light again...Patience Chris....Patience...My voice is not silent....it is only being patient..
YES!!! Some of Us READ YOUR ENTIRE PAGE!!!!
This wrttien on Myspace on Sept. 27th, 2006
Current mood:curious
I must be an oddity here.....although I think I would prefer the word "unique". Now before you decide to saddle me with the label "arrogant", please hear me out. Unique means "one of a kind" and we all are that, aren't we? If you weren't, then don't you think you might want to have that much needed discussion with your parents about the "big secret" they've been hiding from you ALL THESE YEARS! but I digress....
My tie in here is that I DO READ EVERYTHING in your page! I joined this site to meet great and interesting people. Don't get me wrong, the pics you post are the initial attraction, but beauty is fleeting at best. I am as real as the ocean meets the beach, I am as real as the sun rises and sets, and I am looking to glimpse your character, your personality, and to see if you are more than a pretty picture. I can already tell that your beautiful, but do you have the complete package? I mean, I understand you can't tell specific details of a person's complete nature from one web page but we can get a good picture of it in the way you write, the way you smile, and the ways your eyes look. I'm a big believer in seeing into your eyes. I truly believe you really can see a person for who they are that way. I promise you I will look you in the eyes when I'm speaking to you, I can and do this with everyone. I don't see those things just because your wearing a bikini or posing half naked. If I were truly interested in only seeing your breasts or pics of you naked, I assure you, I am more than honest and bold enough to send you an e-mail stating what I want! The body is a beautiful thing, and I celebrate it as such, but please understand that it has to carry a soul in it and as for me I want to see that most. That is me and I am very comfortable in being that way. Being blinded by someone's beauty can be as dangerous to your soul as trying to kiss a cobra is to your health! I really have no problem with the pictures and yes, they are really alluring, so please don't think I'm a prude by any means. Just gotta be more to someone than a good body and a pretty face, don't you think? To some of you, I'm sure I may sound a bit condescending but in all fairness, I have carried the title "The Devil's Little Angel" for part of my life at times too! Just keep in mind if you choose to show yourself off, I understand it and welcome it but don't stereotype me for looking! You put it out there for people to notice and to look at!! LMAO!!!!
Character, Integrity, Honor, are most important because your looks are going to diminish somewhat as time goes by. So when that happens and you don't have those things then I guess you don't have much to offer after all. Now I've been complimented on my looks some in my life, and to those who have given it sincerely, I thank you so much! It is not something I will ever take for granted. Too those who have shared their inner looks with me I will remember you most of all. I think you are beautiful too!
So please, I ask so many of you sincerely, be that beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. I AM READING YOUR STORY and I invite you to read mine! Tell me what you think, good, bad or indifferent. At least I know you are alive and doing well! (I know, be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!) I would like to meet the person behind those eyes and in that body.Remember this Robert Palmer lyric- "A pretty face, don't make no pretty heart"
If I invite you to join me as a friend it is because I saw something in you that made me want to get to know you. If getting to know dogs is your thing, then by all means, don't let me stop you! I assure you I am not registered with the AKC. It's simple, clean and easy! No fuss, no mess! If you want to meet a good man then here I sit. I'll let you decide if you see that in me and if you do, then please say hi, and join me in friendship or possible romance and let other things go where they go. For those of you who ask me to join you, I assure you that I will certainly extend the same kind of courtesy as I would anyone I seek! Until we meet and talk!
Show me your heart and I'll share with you mine! I know of no other way.
Current mood:curious
I must be an oddity here.....although I think I would prefer the word "unique". Now before you decide to saddle me with the label "arrogant", please hear me out. Unique means "one of a kind" and we all are that, aren't we? If you weren't, then don't you think you might want to have that much needed discussion with your parents about the "big secret" they've been hiding from you ALL THESE YEARS! but I digress....
My tie in here is that I DO READ EVERYTHING in your page! I joined this site to meet great and interesting people. Don't get me wrong, the pics you post are the initial attraction, but beauty is fleeting at best. I am as real as the ocean meets the beach, I am as real as the sun rises and sets, and I am looking to glimpse your character, your personality, and to see if you are more than a pretty picture. I can already tell that your beautiful, but do you have the complete package? I mean, I understand you can't tell specific details of a person's complete nature from one web page but we can get a good picture of it in the way you write, the way you smile, and the ways your eyes look. I'm a big believer in seeing into your eyes. I truly believe you really can see a person for who they are that way. I promise you I will look you in the eyes when I'm speaking to you, I can and do this with everyone. I don't see those things just because your wearing a bikini or posing half naked. If I were truly interested in only seeing your breasts or pics of you naked, I assure you, I am more than honest and bold enough to send you an e-mail stating what I want! The body is a beautiful thing, and I celebrate it as such, but please understand that it has to carry a soul in it and as for me I want to see that most. That is me and I am very comfortable in being that way. Being blinded by someone's beauty can be as dangerous to your soul as trying to kiss a cobra is to your health! I really have no problem with the pictures and yes, they are really alluring, so please don't think I'm a prude by any means. Just gotta be more to someone than a good body and a pretty face, don't you think? To some of you, I'm sure I may sound a bit condescending but in all fairness, I have carried the title "The Devil's Little Angel" for part of my life at times too! Just keep in mind if you choose to show yourself off, I understand it and welcome it but don't stereotype me for looking! You put it out there for people to notice and to look at!! LMAO!!!!
Character, Integrity, Honor, are most important because your looks are going to diminish somewhat as time goes by. So when that happens and you don't have those things then I guess you don't have much to offer after all. Now I've been complimented on my looks some in my life, and to those who have given it sincerely, I thank you so much! It is not something I will ever take for granted. Too those who have shared their inner looks with me I will remember you most of all. I think you are beautiful too!
So please, I ask so many of you sincerely, be that beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. I AM READING YOUR STORY and I invite you to read mine! Tell me what you think, good, bad or indifferent. At least I know you are alive and doing well! (I know, be careful what you wish for, you just might get it!) I would like to meet the person behind those eyes and in that body.Remember this Robert Palmer lyric- "A pretty face, don't make no pretty heart"
If I invite you to join me as a friend it is because I saw something in you that made me want to get to know you. If getting to know dogs is your thing, then by all means, don't let me stop you! I assure you I am not registered with the AKC. It's simple, clean and easy! No fuss, no mess! If you want to meet a good man then here I sit. I'll let you decide if you see that in me and if you do, then please say hi, and join me in friendship or possible romance and let other things go where they go. For those of you who ask me to join you, I assure you that I will certainly extend the same kind of courtesy as I would anyone I seek! Until we meet and talk!
Show me your heart and I'll share with you mine! I know of no other way.
So Much Intelligence, So Little Use Of It!!!
Current mood:surprised
""Never make someone a priority if they only make you an option"
I am so impressed with all the really intelligent and great people I see on social sites and dating website mediums! I "browse" alot on myspace, facebook, (and now: Google+) and also look through dating sites, and as I was reading many pages, I ran across the above little gem years ago. I couldn't help but think just how powerful and profound it is. I was dumbstruck (now some might say that it wouldn't take much to do that, but I'll let you decide that for yourself after you talk to me..LOL) as to what that meant in my life.
In my deepest relationship, that is exactly what I let myself become. Oh I tried to change it by all means, but I realize that that was exactly what she relegated me to, an option. After 6 years together, I was now just an option. Quite the bitter pill to swallow, you know, but I did. Now the relationship has been over for a long time and I have moved on, but have you ever read something, heard a song, smelled something, cleaned out a drawer and found a card or pic and the memories come floating back to you. It has had to happen to you or you have never loved anyone.
I know that I am more than an option. I will not ever make someone a priority until they want to make me one as well. If they will not make respect, honor, and integrity a priority in their life then why would I ever have the faith in them to share it together. Absolutely nothing wrong with having these expectations met. I am selective in whom I will call a "friend". I will be as good a friend as I can be and that will also be shown here on this site. I select those whom I feel are interesting and real, and I expect nothing less about myself from anyone here either. I'm not here to gather as many scantily clad "friends" as possible like some. If a spark ingnites a flame between us then that is wonderful, but friendships are the basis. Do I want them to attractive? Yes, (and that can be meant in many different ways, by the way) but I want a good soul and intellect to go with that, please?! Can you talk into the speaker please!
No one expects "undying devotion and love" after a few dates,(IF they do: RUN FORREST! RUNNNNN!) but just re-read that statement at the beginning and try and apply it for a minute to those of your present....did you or they ever do this and did you learn not to?
""Never make someone a priority if they only make you an option"
I am so impressed with all the really intelligent and great people I see on social sites and dating website mediums! I "browse" alot on myspace, facebook, (and now: Google+) and also look through dating sites, and as I was reading many pages, I ran across the above little gem years ago. I couldn't help but think just how powerful and profound it is. I was dumbstruck (now some might say that it wouldn't take much to do that, but I'll let you decide that for yourself after you talk to me..LOL) as to what that meant in my life.
In my deepest relationship, that is exactly what I let myself become. Oh I tried to change it by all means, but I realize that that was exactly what she relegated me to, an option. After 6 years together, I was now just an option. Quite the bitter pill to swallow, you know, but I did. Now the relationship has been over for a long time and I have moved on, but have you ever read something, heard a song, smelled something, cleaned out a drawer and found a card or pic and the memories come floating back to you. It has had to happen to you or you have never loved anyone.
I know that I am more than an option. I will not ever make someone a priority until they want to make me one as well. If they will not make respect, honor, and integrity a priority in their life then why would I ever have the faith in them to share it together. Absolutely nothing wrong with having these expectations met. I am selective in whom I will call a "friend". I will be as good a friend as I can be and that will also be shown here on this site. I select those whom I feel are interesting and real, and I expect nothing less about myself from anyone here either. I'm not here to gather as many scantily clad "friends" as possible like some. If a spark ingnites a flame between us then that is wonderful, but friendships are the basis. Do I want them to attractive? Yes, (and that can be meant in many different ways, by the way) but I want a good soul and intellect to go with that, please?! Can you talk into the speaker please!
No one expects "undying devotion and love" after a few dates,(IF they do: RUN FORREST! RUNNNNN!) but just re-read that statement at the beginning and try and apply it for a minute to those of your present....did you or they ever do this and did you learn not to?
Treading Down that Same Road
Current mood:amused
When I was a active subsciber of MySpace, This one of my first Blogs...I felt the need to speak openly through the medium...as I have always have in life:
As I read alot of the pages, I notice everyone has a list. A list for who they want to meet, a list for who they will allow to contact them, A list for how to be contacted, and on and on.
Now I am a respectful person and am more than willing to oblige you after I read your page and see who you are, so to speak. So as I was doing that I thought "why don't you post a list of your own to let people know what you are about on meeting new people too". So let's tread down that road....come join me won't you?
LIST OF PEOPLE I WILL DENY IMMEDIATELY! NO EXCEPTIONS!:
1. Professional Web Camers!: Don't bother with the invitation. I don't like the big tease in person, much less over a web cam. Its just not a close substitute for live and in person and never will be! BORING! My imagination can do far more than anything you can do on a webcam.(I have a personal rule, if she is going to put her sexual body parts that close to my face in order to arouse and excite me, she better be more than sure she is willing and able to use them for the purpose she intends or I'll walk!) Enough said!
2. People who use EXCESSIVE profanity: It might be great and exciting to lower your vocabulary to your friends, but some of us find it really obnoxious. You kiss your kids with that mouth? and would you put something in your mouth that you wouldn't hold in your hands?
3. Princesses need not apply: Yes, I'm talking to all the gold diggers, primp princesses, and wanna be queens. High maintenance is only achieved if you can prove you are really worth it. If all you are is a good body, a pretty smile, and a rabid narcissist; you are not that great! I support you for believing in yourself , you should and I applaud it, but not at others expense. Its great to be beautiful, but just because you breathe and recieve attention doesn't make you worthy of everything you want and see. You get what you give......
4. Angry People: Ok, I understand you've been dumped, cheated on, lied to, used, manipulated, swindled, and in some cases, even beaten. You did not deserve that. I was not there, I did none of those things and I will not be compared to others who have done this. I am no angel, not in the least, but I do show respect and courtesy and I expect the same of you. Would it be fair for me to compare you to the women who have hurt me deeply? Would you be offended if I did? Look, I understand that it hurt, I really do. Break the chain, stop the cycle, use what ever cliche' you like, but stop thinking you are the only one who has ever been down that road. Seek out those who have been where you just came from and talk to them, find common ground, Really LISTEN to them and start seeing people for who they are, not for whom you anxiously suspect they will become. It is your choice, I concur, but if you took the time to read my page, you will remember what I said about limiting yourself, you aren't limiting others as you think you are. You will know when you have met a horn dog or not, you've been alive and survived the dating scene for a while haven't you?
( Note: to those who are hurting right now, stop what you are doing and realize you need to heal. Do you really think you'll be able to control those emotions with a new person? or do you think you can make the new person live up to the things you didn't get in the last relationship? Most healthy people will see the damage and let you go before you ever get the chance to suck the life out of them. Think about it for a minute, just because we get hurt doesn't mean the rest of the world owes us anything, not even an apology. The only person who does is the one who hurt us and good luck in trying to get that sincerely. Give it time, don't mess someone else up because someone tore your emotions apart, time does heal, I promise!)
5. Dominatrix types: Look ladies, you serve a purpose in this world, just not my world. I will not serve you. I hate domination and dominating others. A little playfulness is great but if you come at me with a whip and chain, I will defend myself, no matter what the gender. Good luck with that though and enjoy yourself, Mistress! (once and only time I'll ever call you that)
6. People who ask me to send a pic of my genitals: Look ladies, I understand the law of equality. I have no doubt you get 100's of requests a day to send pics of you naked, pics of your breasts, pics of the "bearded clam", but rest assured I will not request them from you. I, of course, will look if you volunteer to show me. Understand, that if you do volunteer, you did so of your own free will. I am a red blooded male, for the love of all things great, but I will not ask you for them and please don't ask me to do the same. That request is a location specific event and I don't do that with just anyone.
7. Any one under the age of 25: Unless you are a friend of my children, or a growing or grown up child of one of my friends, what would we have to talk about? I'm 37, not 17. As you can see in my "Friends" list, my daughter is listed as 1, she is the only one I will allow to do this. I don't care about whats on MTV, what the latest and greatest new fad is, and reality T.V is getting really old! Plus, being accused of Pedophelia is not something I even want to approach or think about! I live in the REAL WORLD, I don't watch it on T.V. I do like some of the music, I do like to dance, but come on young people! I am a father, but not your father. Lets keep it that way ok. Sorry but thats how I feel.
Ok...that is about the gist of it. I'm sure as I look around further I will find more things to add but so far that is what I have dealt with. So if you fit this list, use a little rational thinking and don't tread down that road! Thanks!
When I was a active subsciber of MySpace, This one of my first Blogs...I felt the need to speak openly through the medium...as I have always have in life:
As I read alot of the pages, I notice everyone has a list. A list for who they want to meet, a list for who they will allow to contact them, A list for how to be contacted, and on and on.
Now I am a respectful person and am more than willing to oblige you after I read your page and see who you are, so to speak. So as I was doing that I thought "why don't you post a list of your own to let people know what you are about on meeting new people too". So let's tread down that road....come join me won't you?
LIST OF PEOPLE I WILL DENY IMMEDIATELY! NO EXCEPTIONS!:
1. Professional Web Camers!: Don't bother with the invitation. I don't like the big tease in person, much less over a web cam. Its just not a close substitute for live and in person and never will be! BORING! My imagination can do far more than anything you can do on a webcam.(I have a personal rule, if she is going to put her sexual body parts that close to my face in order to arouse and excite me, she better be more than sure she is willing and able to use them for the purpose she intends or I'll walk!) Enough said!
2. People who use EXCESSIVE profanity: It might be great and exciting to lower your vocabulary to your friends, but some of us find it really obnoxious. You kiss your kids with that mouth? and would you put something in your mouth that you wouldn't hold in your hands?
3. Princesses need not apply: Yes, I'm talking to all the gold diggers, primp princesses, and wanna be queens. High maintenance is only achieved if you can prove you are really worth it. If all you are is a good body, a pretty smile, and a rabid narcissist; you are not that great! I support you for believing in yourself , you should and I applaud it, but not at others expense. Its great to be beautiful, but just because you breathe and recieve attention doesn't make you worthy of everything you want and see. You get what you give......
4. Angry People: Ok, I understand you've been dumped, cheated on, lied to, used, manipulated, swindled, and in some cases, even beaten. You did not deserve that. I was not there, I did none of those things and I will not be compared to others who have done this. I am no angel, not in the least, but I do show respect and courtesy and I expect the same of you. Would it be fair for me to compare you to the women who have hurt me deeply? Would you be offended if I did? Look, I understand that it hurt, I really do. Break the chain, stop the cycle, use what ever cliche' you like, but stop thinking you are the only one who has ever been down that road. Seek out those who have been where you just came from and talk to them, find common ground, Really LISTEN to them and start seeing people for who they are, not for whom you anxiously suspect they will become. It is your choice, I concur, but if you took the time to read my page, you will remember what I said about limiting yourself, you aren't limiting others as you think you are. You will know when you have met a horn dog or not, you've been alive and survived the dating scene for a while haven't you?
( Note: to those who are hurting right now, stop what you are doing and realize you need to heal. Do you really think you'll be able to control those emotions with a new person? or do you think you can make the new person live up to the things you didn't get in the last relationship? Most healthy people will see the damage and let you go before you ever get the chance to suck the life out of them. Think about it for a minute, just because we get hurt doesn't mean the rest of the world owes us anything, not even an apology. The only person who does is the one who hurt us and good luck in trying to get that sincerely. Give it time, don't mess someone else up because someone tore your emotions apart, time does heal, I promise!)
5. Dominatrix types: Look ladies, you serve a purpose in this world, just not my world. I will not serve you. I hate domination and dominating others. A little playfulness is great but if you come at me with a whip and chain, I will defend myself, no matter what the gender. Good luck with that though and enjoy yourself, Mistress! (once and only time I'll ever call you that)
6. People who ask me to send a pic of my genitals: Look ladies, I understand the law of equality. I have no doubt you get 100's of requests a day to send pics of you naked, pics of your breasts, pics of the "bearded clam", but rest assured I will not request them from you. I, of course, will look if you volunteer to show me. Understand, that if you do volunteer, you did so of your own free will. I am a red blooded male, for the love of all things great, but I will not ask you for them and please don't ask me to do the same. That request is a location specific event and I don't do that with just anyone.
7. Any one under the age of 25: Unless you are a friend of my children, or a growing or grown up child of one of my friends, what would we have to talk about? I'm 37, not 17. As you can see in my "Friends" list, my daughter is listed as 1, she is the only one I will allow to do this. I don't care about whats on MTV, what the latest and greatest new fad is, and reality T.V is getting really old! Plus, being accused of Pedophelia is not something I even want to approach or think about! I live in the REAL WORLD, I don't watch it on T.V. I do like some of the music, I do like to dance, but come on young people! I am a father, but not your father. Lets keep it that way ok. Sorry but thats how I feel.
Ok...that is about the gist of it. I'm sure as I look around further I will find more things to add but so far that is what I have dealt with. So if you fit this list, use a little rational thinking and don't tread down that road! Thanks!
Getting to know me through my Blogs
Current mood:cheerful
Thanks for checking in! Just taking a second to encourage you to read my blogs and tell me what you think of anything! If I invited you to subscribe to my blog, it is my way of letting you know I think there is something intriguing about you and i am interested in meeting and talking with you. :) I would like you to know who you are meeting or who is knocking at your door so to speak. I really detest the whole " Hey Cutie!" approach! (Didn't that die in the 90's?) You don't have to subscribe, of course, but I would feel honored if you chose to, and please feel free to add a comment, if you agree, disagree, or just want to be silly and playful! and please say Hi and feel free at any time to ask to be added as a friend! I won't bite, (unless asked of course) and I promise to be a gentleman. As for what you will read, I try to blog what is truly on my mind and how I feel about life. Try to capture the moment like a polaroid! You will learn about me through them and of course check out the rest of my page. I'm trying not to let it get to cluttered with "stuff" but I try to update as much as possible. I would love to subscribe to you as well, but quid pro quo is something I think is best! I can't wait to hear from you and hear about what you see and say about life!
"Please ask the ones who always think that the grass is greener on the other side, if they have ever really taken a minute to really look and see that its only taller, and then ask them if they ever wondered what its fertilized with?"
Quoted by: Me
Thanks for checking in! Just taking a second to encourage you to read my blogs and tell me what you think of anything! If I invited you to subscribe to my blog, it is my way of letting you know I think there is something intriguing about you and i am interested in meeting and talking with you. :) I would like you to know who you are meeting or who is knocking at your door so to speak. I really detest the whole " Hey Cutie!" approach! (Didn't that die in the 90's?) You don't have to subscribe, of course, but I would feel honored if you chose to, and please feel free to add a comment, if you agree, disagree, or just want to be silly and playful! and please say Hi and feel free at any time to ask to be added as a friend! I won't bite, (unless asked of course) and I promise to be a gentleman. As for what you will read, I try to blog what is truly on my mind and how I feel about life. Try to capture the moment like a polaroid! You will learn about me through them and of course check out the rest of my page. I'm trying not to let it get to cluttered with "stuff" but I try to update as much as possible. I would love to subscribe to you as well, but quid pro quo is something I think is best! I can't wait to hear from you and hear about what you see and say about life!
"Please ask the ones who always think that the grass is greener on the other side, if they have ever really taken a minute to really look and see that its only taller, and then ask them if they ever wondered what its fertilized with?"
Quoted by: Me
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